Seeing Clearly Through the Holidays — On Smaller Circles, Bigger Hearts & Choosing What Really Matters
This was the first time in years where the holidays didn’t feel like something I had to perform my way through.
No proving.
No pretending.
No over giving.
No trying to hold onto connections that only holds me back.
Just a day that felt effortlessly full.
For the first time, in an extremely long time—the holiday felt like it fit.
This isn’t the season of my life where I chase people.
This is the season where I choose myself—and the people who choose me too.
Depth Over Dick: Choosing Alignment, Healing & Loving Yourself Loudly
“I won’t wait around for half-assed affection or breadcrumbed love stories that go nowhere. I’m not interested in being someone’s “maybe” anymore.
Because what I bring to the table isn’t just dinner—it’s flavorful food, lit candles, deep connection, unmatched head, and love that heals ancestral trauma.”
Entry Eleven: Red-Rover Days, Boardwalk Nights, & The Ones Who Believed It Was “Just My Luck”…
I recently became a Legislative Ambassador for the state of New Jersey through the American Cancer Society – using my voice, my writing, and every ounce of my platform to raise awareness for cholangiocarcinoma, a rare and aggressive bile duct cancer.
I do this in honor of my cousin, Roberto T. Rivera “Bobby” — the boy who helped shape my childhood and a man who was promised ten years to fight, but only survived 373 days after diagnosis.
I’m here to take his words, “Just my luck…” and turn it into something powerful.
Something lasting.
Now, I speak not just for him, but for every family who hears the word cancer and feels the clock start ticking.
Stay tuned for upcoming fundraisers, events, and a donation page added to The Hollow Quill ~ The Roberto T. Rivera “Bobby” Memorial Fund.
